Without boundaries, casual dating wastes fertile years

Femininity, Self-Respect, and Dating with Intention

Femininity finds its roots in self-worth. The feminine woman finds her power in the being and knowing of what it means to exist as the expression of her own womanhood. This is why self-care is so nourishing to the feminine energy. It serves as an offering to a knowingly worthy woman.

This is why you see a woman so transformed after an incident that asks her to reevaluate her own feeling of worthiness. Usually this is a relationship, romantic or otherwise, that becomes the catalyst for a woman to affirm her self-worth for its own sake.

For people are a mirror of your self-worth. They come with their own offering and we are called to respond. Our allowing is our power. What are you allowing from the people in your life? This serves as testimony to your own self-respect.

The feminine is often mistaken as weak. But our strength is not like the brute force of masculine beings. It is an ever-pleasant engagement within the realm of what we are allowing. Or it exists as full disengagement.

This concept is never more present then in modern dating.

Why do we look for love in all the wrong places?

In the wake of feature film, He’s Just Not That into You, more and more women are coming to understand what true masculine engagement looks like, usually after a series of failed rendezvous.

Why are women falling for men who are continuously falling short? The answer lies in dissonance, a vibrational disharmony between what a woman wants, and what she believes she deserves.

You see “want” has been so heavily romanticized. Many women believe that their wanting is a thing of fairy tales rather than the first spark of intention leading to a potential manifestation.

The act of wanting itself has become criminalized in that wanting is seen as greedy, gluttonous, or as some indication that someone thinks too highly of themselves. Some of us have been conditioned to believe that all we deserve is what we need; that we are entitled only to living on the bare minimum.

Often women have not clarified for themselves what it is that they are looking for in a potential partner. This leads to a series of haphazard dating of half-qualified suitors that only offer hollow companionship that is rarely satisfying.

Casual Dating vs. Dating for Courtship

For many of us women who are the first generation, born of immigrants, in a western culture, dating is a new phenomenon all together. Likewise, for those who are the product of conservative upbringings, there is little guidance passed down from mother to daughter as far as dating is concerned.

Casual dating is the newest modern twist on feminine and masculine relationship. Here a woman, unsure of her value offers men the opportunity to engage with her with no clear intention.

For a younger woman, who has not clarified her intentions for herself, this may be fine. It offers the opportunity to engage with masculine energy, learn more about men romantically, and figure out what it is she truly desires in a partner.

However, dating, in its original form, was a precursor for courtship. It served as a stage in a new relationship where two people were figuring out if they truly enjoyed the company of one another, if they had similar visions for their lives, and if this partnership had the potential to be long-term.

What are your boundaries?

What are you offering?

What are you worth?

What do you want?

Are you deserving?

We continue to sacrifice boundaries in exchange for what we think is freedom. A feminine woman knows the need for boundaries in relationships. If there are no clear personal boundaries, there cannot be a clear merging of two lives. Neither party will know what it is they are capable and willing to offer to the other.